Etiquette rules for men: good manners and culture of communication

The image of a well-bred young man consists not only of the ability to behave well towards a woman. Opening the door for a lady, letting her in front of you or helping to carry a heavy bag is certainly good, but the rules of etiquette for men do not end there. Polite speech, a culture of behavior, a well-chosen suit and much more are also an integral part.

In old films about the privileged part of society, we can often observe how, when a lady enters a room, the male half of the hall immediately rises from their seats. And only after the girl is comfortably settled somewhere, the rules of conduct for gentlemen allow them to return to their places.

There are 14 basic rules of behavior for men towards women, which every self-respecting young man should know:

• On the street, a young man must accompany a lady, walking on her left side. On the right side, only the military have the right to go, if necessary, to salute.
• If a girl stumbles or slips, a man must certainly hold her by the elbow.Although in real circumstances the choice remains with the lady.
• Good manners do not allow smoking in front of a lady, only after her consent.
• A real man always lets the lady go ahead, having previously opened the door for her.
• When ascending or descending the steps, the young man is obliged to support his companion if necessary, for this he is a couple of steps away from her.
• When entering the elevator, the man must enter it first, and when leaving, let the girl through first.

• The young man gets out of the car first, who, bypassing the car, opens the door on the passenger side, giving the lady a hand. If a man is a driver of transport, then he is obliged to open the front passenger door and help the lady sit down. In case the gentleman is also a passenger, he needs to sit in the back seat with his companion. It should be remembered that in this case, the girl first gets into the car, and then the man next to her.
• Entering the room, a man helps the lady take off her coat, and leaving it, he must help her put it on.
• In the modern world, a young man is not supposed to find a seat for himself if a woman is standing.
• According to etiquette, a young man needs to come to a meeting before a lady, so as not to put her in an uncomfortable situation if she is late. In emergency cases, you should notify the girl about this and apologize to her.

• A man is obliged to help every woman to carry large bags or any bulky items. These do not include a woman's handbag, as well as small fur coats and coats, except for the case if the lady is not able to carry her things herself because of her health.
• The main mistake of a young person when communicating with someone is crossing his arms, as well as sorting something in his hands.This is considered a sign of disrespect to the opponent.
• When going to a restaurant, the gentleman first comes in so that the head waiter makes the right conclusions about who invited whom and who will pay the bill. With a large number of people, the first person to enter is the one who will pay and is the initiator of the invitation. In the case of a meeting of a couple by a doorman, the girl enters the restaurant first. Following this, the man must find an unoccupied place.
• Being in a company, a young man with a girl is forbidden to speak on frank topics, it is better to choose light, unobtrusive subjects for discussion.

The main thing in the wardrobe of a modern intelligent man is not a formal suit and tie, but the general picture. In other words, harmony. Don't go overboard with accessories. Everything should be in moderation. A tie or bow tie should match the overall color scheme. A shirt should be chosen lighter than a suit or a universal white color should be preferred. Cufflinks or a tie clip should not become a bright accent.

Those who want to emphasize their status or material wealth by complementing the image with massive accessories and jewelry can achieve the opposite result.

As for the male hairstyle, disguised bald patches look awkward. It is not recommended to paint over gray hair. When attending public events, men should shave cleanly. Only small mustaches and beards are allowed.

The appearance of shoes is also one of the most important in the image of a gentleman.Shoes or boots must be kept in proper condition. Lacquer shoes should only be worn when absolutely necessary. For business meetings and dates, shoes made of suede or leather to match the color of the suit will be a suitable option.

Having dealt a little with the wardrobe, you should move on to the norms of behavior in the business sphere. Another important factor when communicating with a business partner is not only the appearance, but even the smell. Preference should be given to perfumes not with a pungent smell, but softer and lighter, closer to natural.

But, above all, business etiquette is how you behave in negotiations and meetings. For example, when entering an elevator, people in higher positions are allowed to pass. The same goes for greetings. Subordinates, according to business ethics, should greet leaders first.

A person working in the field of business should get business cards, as this is much more convenient than wasting time every time looking for a piece of paper to record contact information. The business card design should be simple, without unnecessary details, only brief information about the owner (company name, position, full name, phone number).

You should learn how to prepare for a meeting in advance: It is better to make a list of necessary questions the day before. This will help to significantly reduce the time of the meeting, which will show your business competence.

It happens that at an event an unfamiliar girl can sit at the table on the right side. The rules of conduct in this case prescribe to look after the lady, to ensure that her glass and plate are not empty, regardless of the level of acquaintance. It is necessary to help move the chair away if the girl wants to leave the table, and when she returns, do the same.

It’s ugly to interrupt a girl in a conversation, you should keep the conversation going in every possible way. Etiquette does not welcome increased gestures, as well as crossing the arms over the chest or folding them into pockets. In no case should you poke your fingers at people and laugh at someone loudly or discuss. Subject to the above rules of conduct, any man will be able to win over the right people and easily win the heart of the lady he likes.

For more on the rules of etiquette for men, see the following video.