Conversation rules

Dialogue is a true art that needs to be learned. So it was in all former times, and does not change to this day. Having mastered this skill, a person opens many new doors for himself, becoming a welcome interlocutor.

To comprehend the science of verbal communication, it is important to master several basic stages.

• The ability to listen. Not everyone has it, because a person is inclined to really hear only his own voice. It is necessary to overcome this and learn to pay all your attention to the interlocutor, as well as to the analysis of the information received from him.
• Overcoming the fear of asking again. It often happens that it does not come out the first time to parse a phrase. Don't be shy about clarifying a word you don't understand, as this will not only help you avoid embarrassing situations, but also show that the person's speech matters.
• Mimic. "Game" with eyebrows, smiles, nods - all this on a subconscious level indicates interest in the conversation.
• Pauses. They are necessary during one's own speech, not only for the sake of eliminating boring monotony, but also to give the interlocutor the opportunity to assimilate information or insert any of his remarks.
• Politeness. Wanting to show oneself from the best side, showing good manners and literacy, one should not forget about politeness. Rudeness, obscene expressions and “parasite words” should be excluded as much as possible, especially when communicating with an unfamiliar person.

Learning to conduct a secular conversation does not hurt anyone. Even if the counterpart has not yet found himself in a situation where you need to speak at a “high” level. This can happen at the most unexpected moment, and the ability to interest a representative of the "high society" will be beneficial.

There is a small note.

1. Speech etiquette is very important here. In places where a special culture reigns, communication on a daily level is not allowed. Future interlocutors, as a rule, introduce themselves to each other, calling themselves by their full names and indicating some facts about themselves.
2. The name and patronymic are pronounced so that the interlocutors address each other during the conversation. Noticing that the person did not remember it right away, you can gently remind him.
3. Words are only half of the image, actions are no less important. It is necessary to keep open, taking a relaxed posture. It is not recommended to cross your palms, scratch your nose and neck. All these gestures will tell the interlocutor about tightness and a low degree of frankness.
4. The best topic for discussion is one of the facts that became known when we met. According to etiquette, something common, definitely interesting to both, is suitable. You should be careful here - controversial issues can lead to a quarrel.

During a conversation with a previously unfamiliar person, one should not raise too banal topics. It is important to try to carefully understand what interests the interlocutor pursues so that he himself can speak about them.Observing the conversation, noticing turns of speech, personal conclusions about the degree of knowledge and the number of interests - all this will help to understand the person and determine the topic for communication.

If you want to leave behind only positive emotions, you need to learn how to give pleasure to the entire conversational process. To do this, you should use a personal interesting story, somehow related to the chosen topic, telling it and getting acquainted with the prevailing opinion of the interlocutor.

Competent construction of sentences, beautiful formulation of one's own thoughts, fluency and clarity of speech - without this it is almost impossible to conduct a constructive, pleasant dialogue. Each of the aspects will help to improve the effectiveness of communication, for example, at work. Without these skills, you can not do with the independent organization and conduct of events.

Being a good conversationalist for strangers is not as difficult as it seems. You just need to remember a few rules:

• eye contact with a person during a conversation will show him the significance of the ongoing dialogue and interest in it;
• even one smile can give positive emotions and contribute to relaxation;
• maintaining a conversation: the dialogue must be continued for some time, even if the topic of conversation of one of the parties turned out to be uninteresting - do not forget to be polite;
• a raised tone is unlikely to lead to good impressions, but it’s better not to speak in a “loud whisper” either;
• using a person's name when communicating will positively affect him psychologically at a subconscious level;
• you can interrupt the interlocutor during his speech only by accident, in no case on purpose, otherwise it will leave a negative mark;
• correctly express their own opinion only after the completion of a certain phrase of the counterpart;
• it is recommended to get rid of the habit of boasting, if any, as soon as possible, because no one likes such a character trait;
• Everyone is entitled to their own opinion as long as it doesn't turn into an insult.

It happens that after a conversation with a particular person you feel uncomfortable. In order not to become one of these, it is enough to remember some things.

• The main thing is to be yourself, no matter what the circumstances are. You can not renounce your own personality, worthy of respect.
• If the interlocutor directly asks for advice on any issue, you should not answer the first phrase that comes to mind. It is better to take a little time to think about the situation and decide if there is an opportunity to help. If it is not there, let the person immediately find out about it, because in this case he will only be grateful for the attention and sincerity shown.
• By constantly putting yourself above others, you will not achieve anything good, even in reality having such superiority. It is much more pleasant to help relatives and those in need to the best of their ability, then people themselves will be drawn to you.
• There is nothing wrong with getting tired of dialogue, for example, with an annoying and unpleasant person. In this case, it is better to say this directly, so as not to be a hypocrite.

To learn how to make small talk, see the following video.