Etiquette Rules for School Children: Politeness Lessons

Children's behavior invariably worries all parents. It must strictly follow the rules of etiquette, but to achieve this, as many people think, is not easy. This is a mistake: it is enough to solve the problem in stages and all difficulties will be overcome.

Etiquette is a set of norms of behavior that regulate actions in specific places and situations. By teaching your child to follow the generally accepted rules, you will not experience embarrassment for his actions and facilitate his relationship with the people around him. Moreover, you will regularly hear words of gratitude and improve the reputation of your family in the eyes of others.

To instill good manners begins with the norms of behavior that will be needed in the following situations:

• in public places and on the street;
• when visiting;

• how to act in transport;
• when talking;
• in the family;
• at the table;
• when talking on the phone;
• in an educational institution.

Do not expect that everything will be learned only in words. No matter how carefully they listen to you, and no matter what mutual understanding is reached, you will have to teach first of all by your own example. Parents who call for one thing, and who act in the opposite way very easily, imperceptibly lose their authority almost completely.

It is easy to say that it is necessary to “educate by concrete examples”. But finding an approach to children is much more difficult. You need to start at an early age. Encourage your baby with intonation, gestures and glances for positive actions and condemn for negative ones. This is most directly related to the development of good qualities in school students, lays a solid and solid foundation for the assimilation of ethical standards.

When training, consider:

• Violation of the norms of behavior, indiscipline, rudeness should be corrected immediately. Do not wait until they take root, become habitual.
• Strictly follow the neatness and appearance in general. This is no less important than the words spoken by the child, his gestures and general demeanor.

Now we can consider private examples of etiquette. In each case, the same general principles of learning are manifested, but there are also their own, special ones.

Eating is an important part of schoolchildren's lives and it is essential that they be courteous and attentive at the table. A person who thinks about others always:

• uses only suitable cutlery, does not replace them with hands and foreign objects;
• for wiping hands, face and clothes at the table uses only a napkin;
• washes hands with soap before eating;
• avoids conversations or reduces them to the bare minimum;
• wishes everyone at the table a good appetite at the beginning of the meal, thanks for it at the end.

Important: some children tend to eat faster than others, while champing occurs, a mouthful of food is collected, the plate overflows with food, something falls on the floor. All this is extremely reprehensible, and having noticed such cases, one must immediately stop their repetition. Convincingly and clearly explain to the child what threatens a certain act, what is the opinion of others and what inconveniences are created. Forbid outdoor games, all kinds of pampering: they have no place and no time at the table!

It is extremely rare to find families in which they never go anywhere to visit. Excessively free behavior of a student, his lack of self-control can cause a lot of trouble and even provoke a scandal. Quiet discontent and irritation, accumulating in the owners gradually, is no better.

At school age, you should already know:

• in order to come to friends and classmates at home, you must have an invitation, warn about your visit in advance;
• you can not make noise, run, look into all rooms and doors, open cabinets and bedside tables;
• it is forbidden to openly express dissatisfaction with the behavior of those present, the decoration of the house, refreshments: immediacy here turns from dignity into a strong disadvantage;

• do not arbitrarily take other people's things or grab food from the table without permission.

In admonishing, it is unacceptable to simply reduce everything to a banal ban. You need to be motivated to avoid mistakes. Teach your child to always think, “what if I were (a) in the place of those people.”

This is another situation in which students regularly make mistakes. You need to explain to them the following key requirements:

• you need to enter the salon, skipping all those leaving;
• it is supposed to give way to the elderly, disabled, younger;
• it is advisable to take off a satchel, backpack or briefcase: leaving it on your shoulders, you can create inconvenience to other passengers;
• you can’t stay at the door if you don’t get off at the next stop;
• in transport it is forbidden to eat and drink, run around the cabin, conduct loud conversations. It is these points that are most often violated by children.

A role-playing game turns out to be a good educational technique, as a result of which any first-grader independently learns: why it is unpleasant to look at running children, what threatens an insatiable, uncontrollable attachment to ice cream. When traveling by transport, pay attention to how convenient it is to prepare for the exit in advance, and what problems a person dooms himself to, rushing to the doors only when they are opened.

Good behavior also implies the observance of ethical standards in public places, on the street. Children need to be taught that:

• garbage should be thrown only into bins and containers, but directly on the ground;
• you should not walk on the lawn, even if there are no prohibition signs;
• Always remember the rules of the road.

The urban environment is a source not only of opportunities, but also of dangers.School students should know for sure: if parents ask them to stay in a certain place, they cannot leave there in any case, no matter what benefits they promise and no matter what requests they make. From communication with people who are unfamiliar to the child, even if they are peers or adults who do not inspire any fear, it is more correct to refuse completely.

A performance given by theater artists often becomes a holiday and an unforgettable spectacle, helping to form the best qualities and broaden the horizons of children. But they are obliged to make sure that in society the clothes remain neat and clean, and in case of any problems, immediately pay attention to adults quietly.

Tell them that in the theater you should also behave in a disciplined and polite manner, you can’t go to your place in a row, stepping on the feet of other people. During the presentation, one should refrain from remarks and comments. If the child tries to say something, let him endure until the intermission.

The speech etiquette of a student is important in any of the situations described: at home, away, on the street and on the bus. The key points will be:

• obligatory greeting of acquaintances;
• referring to any adult strictly on "you";
• inadmissibility of interference in other people's conversations and comments aloud;
• farewell before leaving;

• immediate apology in case of any wrongdoing;
• a ban on insults, the use of parasitic words;
• refusal to discuss other people, whether they are among those present or not.

Follow the conversations of children, even in the most ordinary everyday situations. If the intonation is wrong, there are strange pauses and speech is clogged, the diction is fuzzy or unpleasant - this must be dealt with. Sometimes it is worth interrupting the child and drawing his attention to the mistake made. Show tact and sensitivity, you can use humor, but let it be directed at the miss, and not at the personality of the student.

It is one of the most important parts of any student's life. The child must learn to treat all teachers and school staff politely and respectfully. Doing homework, arranging objects on the desk, neatness, having the necessary textbooks, notebooks and sports uniforms are also etiquette prescriptions. Polite students do not listen to players, do not play games on the phone and do not call on it during the lesson. It is convenient for everyone, especially for the students themselves.

For information on what etiquette is, see the following video.