Refined manners and propriety

Every day we communicate with a huge number of people. In many respects, the impression we make depends on our behavior. With good manners, each person greatly increases the chances of building favorable relationships with others. It is generally accepted that the very word "etiquette" originated in France, at the court of Louis XIV. During the royal receptions, guests were given cards on which the rules of conduct were written, and it was they who were called labels.

Compliance with the rules of decency is a generally accepted norm in modern society, subject to the adequacy of a person. For example, we cannot leave the house in a negligee, otherwise we will face an administrative penalty. The very definition of such a word as "etiquette" lies in the totality of rules of conduct that are considered appropriate in this particular society.

The manners of a well-mannered person are always refined and favorably distinguish him from the background of other people who neglect these manners. Many people are unaware of the fact that ignorance and unwillingness to follow the rules of etiquette is disadvantageous, first of all, to themselves, moreover, this applies to various areas: both appearance, and culture of speech, and rules of conduct in general.

The aphorism of the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates says: "Speak so that I can see you." This phrase expresses the whole essence of the importance of speech as a way of communication between people. While a person is silent, we cannot understand what he is, what his inner world is hiding. Surely everyone is familiar with such a situation when outwardly a person is very attractive, his image is on top, but as soon as we begin to communicate, we understand that this is just an outer shell that does not correspond to his essence.

Most repulsive is the use of profanity, the inability to listen and hear when a person often interrupts his interlocutor, and even worse, is rude or insolent to him. Always and everywhere it will be perceived as disrespect and bad dismissive attitude.

That is why it is important to follow the principle that a beautiful person is beautiful in everything. Only in the aggregate of all factors, such as good manners, literate, correct speech and a neat appearance, will a person harmoniously coexist with other people in modern society.

The norms of behavior may vary, depending on the place where the person is located, what activities they are engaged in. For example, while in public transport, a man is obliged to give way to a woman, especially if she is pregnant or elderly.But surely everyone at least once noticed such a negative habit behind the unscrupulous representatives of the male half of humanity, how to pretend that he is reading something with enthusiasm or fell asleep, just not to give way to a pregnant woman.

It becomes ashamed of such a man, there is a feeling of annoyance. Fortunately, not everyone is like this, and gallant young people are also found. Particular attention is paid to appearance. Appearance should always be neat, no matter where you are going to go. There is one general rule: everything that you put on public display must be in a well-groomed condition - these are neat nails and hair, washed and ironed clothes, clean shoes.

Even if a person’s financial capabilities are limited, and if the suit is from a thrift store, the main thing is that it is clean, not torn, and fits in size. After all, to have a well-groomed and neat appearance, you just need to take care of yourself sufficiently. and for this it is not at all necessary to be a millionaire or a rich man. Of course, in the presence of a material base, a much greater number of opportunities are revealed, but for a simple average person, basic personal care products and clothing are fully available.

Even if we take the marginalized segments of the population (the homeless, drinking people from a disadvantaged environment), then there are also shelters and charitable organizations for them, which are trying in every possible way to provide at least some help and support in order to improve their quality of life.

Psychologists advise to always be friendly when communicating with people around you. In the process of speaking, it is better to avoid high intonations, you should pronounce words calmly, slowly, expressing your thoughts clearly and clearly, without interrupting the interlocutor.

A positive attitude is of great importance. The fact of its manifestation is a smile at a greeting, but not done and strained, but sincere and unconstrained. Even if you had an unpleasant conversation with your boss or an argument with your spouse a few minutes ago, you should not pour out your righteous anger on the first store clerk you come across or your neighbor on the landing.

Thanks to the regular observance of the rules of etiquette and good manners, a person develops the habit of behaving this way not only in an official setting, at secular receptions, but also in everyday life. There is such a pattern: if you make it a rule to keep your back straight, to avoid stooping, then a military posture will become an integral part of the image for a person, most importantly, to avoid excessive tension.

At first it will be difficult, especially if a person is used to slouching, but the more often you do such a simple exercise, the faster the habit of keeping your posture will reach automatism. Facial expressions and gestures are also of great aesthetic importance. The whole image as a whole should be harmonious and stylish.

It is generally accepted that people with good taste have a sense of style. The concept of "style" is based on a set of harmoniously combined specific features of behavior and details of a person's appearance, which favorably distinguish him from everyone else.Such people are also called style icons.

For example, this woman was great Coco Chanel - the progenitor of the world-famous brand of the same name. She had exquisite taste and refined aristocratic manners. Her taste preferences in the field of fashion were taken as the foundations in the beauty industry, they are considered reference to this day.

Each country has its own norms of behavior, specific national traditions and rules of decency. Religion and religion have a significant influence on their formation. In order to avoid unpleasant situations before traveling, it is recommended to study as much information as possible about the peculiarities of etiquette, patterns in the behavior of residents that are characteristic of a particular country. Let's consider some of them:

• England with its royal traditions, it is considered the country of aristocrats and the most developed in the field of etiquette, as evidenced by the world-famous image of an English gentleman with ideal aristocratic manners. When talking, the optimal distance between the interlocutors is the distance of an outstretched arm. To say compliments in public means to show bad taste, the British try to keep a low profile and somewhat conservatively.

• Russia. During the reign of Ivan IV, the clergyman Sylvester wrote a collection of rules "Domostroy". The main idea was that the power in the family belongs entirely to the father. Later, Peter I was a preacher of European manners in Russia. Many of those rules have survived to this day. Russian people are considered very hospitable, responsive and emotional.Some representatives of other nationalities consider Russians prone to excessive familiarity, and they, in turn, accuse them of excessive coldness.
• Japan. In this country, it is not customary to shake hands, people just bow to each other. The Japanese avoid eye contact, and silence is considered a sign of masculinity and strength. In a conversation, the inhabitants of this country try to avoid the word “no”, for example, when answering the question of whether a Japanese wants tea, he will answer that he already has enough.

• Spain. In this country, it is customary to be late for a meeting by an average of 15 minutes. If you are invited to breakfast, then you can agree if the request is repeated three times when they begin to persuade you. If you already agree to the first or second invitation, then this will be considered bad form.
• Israel. When greeting even strangers here, it is customary to ask certain questions on duty, which must be answered, but briefly, without going into excessive details and details. By ignoring the question, you can pass for a gloomy and impolite person. In this country, a woman is not allowed to touch Orthodox Jews, they can be easily distinguished from all other Israelis by their specific appearance.

In every country, regardless of its characteristics, it is important to behave with others delicately and with respect, and then in any society we will meet a benevolent response. The famous Spanish writer Miguel de Cervantes once amazingly accurately said that nothing costs us so cheaply and is not valued as dearly as politeness.

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